Self- Esteem ( in love...)

topic posted Thu, July 17, 2008 - 8:54 PM by  Kerra
Can you love someone who can't love themselves?
posted by:
Kerra
New York
  • Re: Self- Esteem ( in love...)

    Thu, July 17, 2008 - 9:38 PM
    Possibly but my question is: can someone who does not love themselves ever love someone else? I'd say no.
    • Re: Self- Esteem ( in love...)

      Thu, July 17, 2008 - 9:50 PM
      and there lies the problem... loving someone who can't love themself is exhausting. your

      constantly proving your love to the person with the damaged self-esteem.
      • Re: Self- Esteem ( in love...)

        Fri, July 18, 2008 - 6:10 AM
        I've been in a relationship like that, and it was exhausthing being on the giving end of it all. I don't think I could ever go back to that. Scorpio-types tend to loath weakness in others, and even though I see myself as a little more diplomatic and sensitive than that, I kinda see where it's coming from. I felt like the entire relationship was resting on my shoulders, and I got tired of being the strong one for the both of us all the time.
        • Re: Self- Esteem ( in love...)

          Thu, July 24, 2008 - 6:17 PM
          I've been the one with low (though certainly not warranted) self esteem. It was another Scorpio who healed me. He was the strong one
          for us most of the time. His stoic nature and fortitude are something of which I shall forever be grateful. I feel like my picture.
          And, now, because of my new found strength, we are strong for one another.

          I realize that not all such stories have a happy ending, but nor are they all lost causes.

          I also don't think all Scorpios are loath weakness inasmuch as we can often be judgmental yet, at the same time, be extremely
          compassionate. I know I often have my own ideas about people but I am usually the last one standing when others
          have given up on someone.

          What needs to be considered is 1) why does this person have low self esteem 2) what else do they contribute; what do
          they bring (that is positive) to the relationship 3) do you have the strength and courage to see where it may go; are you
          equipped to help this person? and 4) are they receptive to assistance? If you aren't sure of any of these questions,
          you should always bow out before fully committing - its better for everyone in the long run.
          • Re: Self- Esteem ( in love...)

            Sun, July 27, 2008 - 4:36 PM
            my self-esteem is not always on point. i have my days when i just wanna crawl under a

            rock. that said... like you Singularity it took being in a relationship with someone to help me

            heal and open myself up to love. he basically said flat out look i'm not the one man in the

            world who's suppose to love and protect you (dad) and i'm not your ex's so dont make me

            pay for their mistakes. before this relationship i was always in the back of my mind

            waiting for the other shoe to drop. expecting the worst and not letting anything in good or

            bad.

            " What needs to be considered is 1) why does this person have low self esteem 2) what else do they contribute; what do
            they bring (that is positive) to the relationship 3) do you have the strength and courage to see where it may go; are you
            equipped to help this person? and 4) are they receptive to assistance? If you aren't sure of any of these questions,
            you should always bow out before fully committing - its better for everyone in the long run. "

            good points to definitely consider.
  • Re: Self- Esteem ( in love...)

    Sun, July 20, 2008 - 8:29 AM
    love is always possible,
    however, what kind of love would that be?
    like, wouldn't they make it hard for you to love them if they are not "loving" , not loving themselves or in the space to accept love?

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